Farewell - a new Beginning

The word "Fare Well”, I believe means another opportunity awaits you, its time to leave and fare well in new one.

There comes a time in our lives when we have to bid farewell. Most of find us do find it emotionally painful. Especially when it has been a great journey like - doing the work that we enjoyed the most, taking up challenges that made us realize our strength or being with some of the best people around us, sharing, inspiring, motivating and bringing some meaning to our lives etc.

Lucky are those who have sense of detachment in work, hence they do not experience much pain while moving on. Blessed are those who feel the pain, for this pain is the indicator of self involvement - our sincerity, hard work etc. More involved we are, more attached we become. More attachment more pain.Yet we need to move on and there is a long distance to be covered in short time. In this long journey, the pain should be a milestone, but not become a dead end.

Farewell does not just mean an end of a phase; it does also indicate a beginning of a new journey. Farewell- The word by itself says "Fare Well”, I believe means another opportunity awaits you, its time to leave and fare well in new one.

There lay an unexplored world awaiting you - great people to be met, challenges to be taken up, joys to be experienced and peaks to be scaled. Just keep moving on.Time is a great healer and it would heal this pain too.

In this fast dynamic world, the healing too is faster. We will be missed and we would be missing too. But looking back after few years these would have become sweet memories to be cherished. Also in this highly connected world, is staying in touch is as simple as click of mouse or mobile key pad. Even the connecting devices (mobiles & computers) are changing and moving on to next phase. Then why not us?

Just move on to a new beginning and Fare Well!!

Letting it go

Take up new opportunities and move forward and be happy or hold-on to the same old things and stay where you are and regret later

Often, there comes a time in our life where we need to let go off the things that we cherished the most. It could be leaving our friends to travel abroad, a new role in the job from existing one, leaving the team to join another team, leaving something that we had passionately created to taken care by someone else etc. Some of it would be so close to heart that we unknowingly become possessive about it especially when we had worked so hard to get it done. Its a very difficult situation to be in. But choice has to be made. Being the same place or doing the same work because of emotional attachment, is definitely not a good idea in the long run. It in-fact would create monotony and boredom and could be fatal in reaching our long term goal.

We live in a very dynamic world, where change is the only constant. If we dont change at the right time, then we would be forced to change at the wrong time. With every change, there's a whole set of new responsibilities, new challenges, new faces, new opportunities to be explored. Holding on to the old things because of emotional attachment, may definitely not be a good thing, as it would be difficult to concentrate on both the things at same time, ultimately screwing up both.

What we need to understand is that we might have been provided a new opportunity like - change in work, travel abroad for higher education, new assignment etc because of the good work we have done in the current level, and its only expected that we move to next level. We never know, such a move could be a catalystic change in reaching our ambition or long term goal.
You have done a good work, let it go when the right time comes to take up the next one.Who knows you could be the missing piece in the jig-saw puzzle?There are more opportunities around calling you.Take it up and move forward or hang on to old one and stay where you are and regret later.

Emotional Compartmentalization

The work and family should be like rail tracks - together but parallel and never meeting at any point, to enable smooth journey in life.

In our day to day lives, we don atleast more than one role- family and work. Some of them even more. Each role has its own set of problems and needs a different way to handle it. Never mix up this both or never let the problems in one role to affect another. In other words, compartmentalize your emotions. Store up anger,tension,anxieties,sorrow of each role in separate compartments - for family,work and other roles.Its tough but doable.

Most of us carry the problems of work to home and vice-versa, thereby ignoring the support/comfort/joy the other role provides, creating discomfort to people around us. A selfish behavior - making others suffer for your problem they have no idea or no control.

The work and family should be like rail tracks - together but parallel and never meeting at any point, to enable smooth journey in life.

Emotional compartmentalization enables us to focus our energies on tasks in hand channelizing it in right direction. If we were to mix up family problems at work and vice-versa, it would result in lack of focus in either of the problems, building up the burden.

Everyone has their own share of problems and they definitely dont need yours !! Leaders (more so soldiers!) engage this art of emotional compartmentalization to carry out their task in hand.It creates an emotional stability in handling the tasks at hand. What if your boss vents out his anger on you because of his family problem?What if our parents do the same because of work tension? Is that acceptable?

Its may not be possible everytime to compartmentalize, especially if the problem is too big for us to handle and drain us out,but it should be an exception case, but not a rule!Once in a while its ok as it cant be helped!

Leave your workplace problems at your doorstep when you reach home to take up other role. Similarly, leave our family problems as you swipe in your ID card at your workplace. There are challenges in store for you.

Its inspiring to be You - the Unique Self

In this world's stage, being ourselves will make us heroes, being someone will only make us mimicry artist - just to be laughed at !

One of the very very few things in this universe that cannot be duplicated is You - i.e. being one's self. Our Self is a combination of capabilities, appearance, environment, interests, talents, joys ,struggles, people around us etc. Each of us have our own way of handling things. Its impossible to find another person who has lived in the same combinations as you.

Billions have come and gone and yet there is none like you. Fingerprints in our own hands are not the same, nor are the power same in both our eyes. For this earth, there is one sun, one moon and the one-unique You.

Alas, some of us tend to ignore this fact and pretend to be someone else wasting the whole potential of being one's self. There was and will always be only one Aryabhatta, one Charaka, one Leonardo Da vinci, one Einstein, one Mozart. There are a lot of things to get inspired, motivated and learnt from others, but it must only be learning not imitation! Learning expands our knowledge and experience, thus expanding our uniqueness.

Take a simple example: If a music composer copies or picks up a track another source and uses it for different film, do we still call him a learner or copycat? Do we still call him genius?? From that moment, doesn't he loses respect? The same applies when we also try to be someone.

The universal truth is that, there are people to like you, appreciate you, accept you as you are! Pretending will only demean one's unique (and great!) self.

With all the flaws and greatness, weakness and strength, stupidity and intelligence - You are the only one! You are where you are now because only you can fill in the gap in your family, fill the gap in the workplace, fill the gap in someone's life. In short, you are the unique missing piece to complete the jigsaw puzzle in life. So, just be You. Its inspiring to be You!

In this world's stage, being ourselves will make us heroes, being someone will only make us mimicry artist - just to be laughed at !