Being Nice is Not Always Nice!

Every human being craves to be nice person,be appreciated and praised for being nice. After all,being good and nice is very essence of human being.

It’s also great to be nice person and be appreciated for being known as nice person. But whats is not great is that the "implicit expectation" of people around us.
"He/she is such a nice person. He/She will never hurt others. He/She will listen to everything the elders say"

The first line is a genuine one. But 2 sentences is definitely what I mean as “implicit expectation”.  Did he or she tell that they will hurt others?   Did he or she tell that they will listen to everything the elders say?

Well...None of us like to hurt others. If the other person is so sensitive and gets hurt, why should so called nice person be blamed or expected to compromise?

Everyone respects elders and definitely wants to get their wisdom is taking some decision in life. But what if the so called elders have very limited knowledge of current world? What if their advice may not be applicable in current world? Can’t the nice person have his/her own idea or thought?   Why is the nice person expected to follow everything elders say?  Is it nice of people who have this implicit expectation?

Most of us fall for the good name that we don’t mind adhering to the implicit expectations, thinking these are virtues. The sad and practical truth is that as we grow up, this implicit expectations becomes a burden that we need to carry everywhere and every living moment of our life. Sometime this even ties our hands that we end up sacrificing some of the small joys in life e.g. "A good person will not bunk classes... She will wear only this kind of dress…He will not have funky hairstyle etc."  None of this is bad or unethical but we do miss these little harmless joys that could have become fond memories to laugh about in later part of our life!

In the end, we become prisoner carrying the burden of good name on our shoulders taking every step with life with caution without enjoying the journey of life.

If people are bold then they break the implicit expectation and make their stand clear. If they dont have guts, they enjoy them secretly all alone, making sure the nobody notices as it could bring bad name to them or they end up sacrificing the joys of life & living a life of regret.

This is not to say don’t be good. Good name is a treasure that we need to earn by living the values. But it should be a right one! People should focus on the qualities and not what they expected from them. He is a good guy.He tries his best to help people etc.Though is she is tough, she is a good boss and everyone respects her etc. The goodness is about positive quality of a person and not the implicit expectations.

Is it a nice things if police are nice to criminals?
Is it a nice thing if a boss is always nice to his team even if they do mistakes?
If it a nice things that parents are nice to their kids even if they do mistakes?

A good name should be treasure
To live life of happiness and pleasure
Not be a  Ball and Chain
To realize in the end
That we lived a life of regrets and vain!